Sexual Misconduct Prevention and Affirmative Consent Programs

It’s Time to Create a Culture of Consent.

With the much-needed swell of awareness and intolerance of sexual harassment, sexual coercion and sexual assault, now is the time to create a healthy culture of consent in schools and communities all over the country.

Our progressive, research based sexual misconduct prevention presentations and workshops address the root causes and provide practical, action-oriented solutions students, teachers and parents can apply immediately to create meaningful change.

We consult with administrators, staff, and students to customize a program that addresses the specific needs of your campus.

Our programs offer:

  • 60-90 minute interactive presentations for groups of 30-300+
  • Workshops for middle and high school students, teachers and parents
  • Curriculum for staff to implement on-campus workshops as well as incorporate into existing health and sexual health education programs:
    • Action steps for students to implement affirmative consent on campus immediately in order to prevent sexual misconduct.
    • Action steps for teachers to support students in creating a culture of consent.
    • Curriculum teachers can implement in the classroom to make their sexual health education more comprehensive and relevant.
    • Tools and tips for parents to support them having healthy conversations with their children about preventing sexual misconduct
  • Take away resources provided

Students can expect to:

  • Define healthy relationships as consensual, mutually pleasurable, safe, communicative and rooted in respect.
  • Develop the knowledge, language, and tools needed to create and maintain healthy non-romantic, romantic, and/or sexual relationships.
  • Learn how to set and receive personal boundaries.
  • Create action steps to become change-makers in their communities.
  • Understand adolescence & ‘raging hormones’: What’s going on emotionally and physically (including the development of sexual attraction and curiosity) & the responsibility that comes with engaging in a sexual context (It is totally natural and healthy to feel sexually charged but this comes with responsibility)
  • Examine multiple real-life examples in order to comprehend how prevalent sexual misconduct is, and the long-term consequences for both the victim and the perpetrator.
  • Defining Sexual Misconduct (which includes Sexual Harassment, Sexual Coercion, and Sexual Assault)
  • Looking at Root Causes and Ending Sexual Misconduct
    • Personal Agency Over Ourselves & Our Bodies (Bodily Autonomy)
    • Personal Agency & Gender Roles As Modeled in the Media and Society
    • The Man Box, The Woman Box, The Human Box
    • Introduce Language of Consent in Non-Sexual Scenarios
    • Affirmative Consent: what it looks like, feels like & sounds like in a sexual context
    • Creating a Culture of Consent in Our Community: How can we encourage each other and keep each other accountable?
  • Learn Sexual Decision Making: the emotional, psychological, and spiritual impact of engaging in sexual activities, understanding what I am and am not ready to engage in, and how to express interest or desire in a healthy and safe way.
  • Gain tools to be an upstanding bystander and stop sexual misconduct before it begins.

Educators and Parents can expect to:

  • Learn how gender role programming is limiting our children’s sexual well-being.
  • Become a “safe” adult – a trusted adult for kids to approach with sex-related questions and concerns.
  • Understand adolescence & ‘raging hormones’: What’s going on emotionally and physically with our children (including the development of sexual attraction and curiosity) & teaching them about the responsibility that comes with engaging in a sexual context (It is totally natural and healthy to feel sexually charged but this comes with responsibility)
  • Examine multiple real-life examples in order to comprehend how prevalent sexual misconduct is, and the long-term consequences for both the victim and the perpetrator.
  • Learn how to talk to your kids about safe and healthy choices in a sexual context.
  • Acquire tools to support victims of sexual misconduct.
  • Become a role model for healthy boundary setting and receiving.

Contact us now for a program summary or free consultation!
info@REALyouPrograms.com

REALyou Frequently Asked Questions:

Will a comprehensive sexual health education encourage my child to have sex?
At what age is it appropriate to talk to my child about sex and consent?
  • Teaching the proper names for body parts can start as early as you teach your child words. Conversations about bodily autonomy (I am the boss of my body), and consent can begin at age 4 or 5 years old, and often even earlier. For example, we can teach our children that they are the boss of their body and nobody has the right to touch it without their permission. This can be encouraged by not forcing children to hug and kiss people if they do not feel comfortable doing so. Instead, we can offer our children the choice to hug, shake hands, or fist bump.
What is the difference between sexual harassment, sexual coercion, and sexual assault?
  • Sexual harassment is unwelcome conduct of a sexual nature, which can be verbal, nonverbal, or physical. Examples include, but are not limited to: unwanted sexual looks or gestures, unwanted pressure for dates, whistling at someone, or catcalls.
  • Sexual coercion is the act of using pressure, persistent attempts to have sexual contact with someone who has already refused, using alcohol/drugs, or force to have sexual contact with someone against their will. Examples include, but are not limited to: efforts to convince you that you ‘owe’ them because you’re in a relationship or they bought you something, a negative reaction if you say no, continued pressure to engage in a sexual activity after you have said no.
  • Sexual assault is any type of sexual contact forced upon someone who has not given their consent or with someone who cannot consent, such as someone who is underage, has an intellectual disability, is under the influence of drugs or alcohol, or is passed out. Examples include, but are not limited to: attempted rape; someone touching, fondling, kissing, or making any contact with your body (touching above or under clothes) without explicit consent; someone forcing you to perform oral sex or forcing you to receive oral sex.
What is affirmative consent?
  • An affirmative, unambiguous, enthusiastic, and conscious decision by each participant to engage in mutually agreed-upon sexual activity. Consent has to be ‘ongoing’ throughout any sexual encounter.
What do I do if I'm a victim of sexual misconduct?
How often are sexual assault accusations false?
  • According to the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, false reporting for sexual assault is between 2% and 10%. However, the majority of victims never report.
What should I do as a parent if my child tells me they were sexually assaulted?
  • It is imperative that when your child discloses to you, you continue to repeat the following messages through both your words and your actions:
    • I love you.
    • What happened is not your fault.
    • I will do everything I can to keep you safe.

It is also really important that you seek professional support to guide you in navigating your own big emotions around the reality of your child being assaulted while also supporting your child navigate their trauma. RAINN has excellent guiding tips for parents of children who have been sexually assaulted.

How can a parent tell if their child has been a victim of sexual misconduct?
  • Trauma from experiencing sexual misconduct can present in a variety of ways and differs among individuals. Some indications include:
    • Chronic pain that is not clearly related to a physical injury
    • Migraines and other frequent headaches
    • Anxiety/nervousness
    • Shame or guilt
    • Distrust of others
    • Symptoms of PTSD: emotional detachment, sleep disturbances
    • Depression
    • Generalized anxiety
    • Attempted suicide
    • Low self-esteem/self-blame
    • Engaging in high-risk sexual behavior
    • Using harmful substances
    • Unhealthy diet-related behaviors
How can I help someone who has been sexually assaulted?
  • Immediately say to the victim the following: “I believe you. It’s not your fault. I’m here to support you. Let’s get some help.”
  • Every individual will find different things comforting or helpful so it’s important to listen to the individual and respect their needs and requests.

What teachers have said:

“I found your presentation to be very interesting, engaging, and relevant. I have heard positive comments from students, which makes me really happy. One of the best uses of our staff development time ever.” – Terri, High School Teacher

“Anea is an excellent presenter who truly understands the world of young people. Her humor, wisdom, and authenticity resonate with students, and the nature of her interactive lectures allows students to move beyond the discomfort and into greater awareness. Anea has a knack for teaching young people how to make potentially awkward situations comfortable and respectful, and her workshops have initiated a culture of consent on our campus.” – William Blair, Assistant Principal, Mountain View High School

What parents have said:

“This is such a critical topic to bring out into the open and a missing piece in most curricula. Anea does a fantastic job of exploring the issue and more importantly, providing solutions for young adults and parents.” – Amanda Oakson and Randy Salim

“Our school district experienced a crisis regarding sexual assault, after which a committee was formed to address next steps. I am a member of this committee, which is comprised of parents, students, faculty, and administrators. We engaged in a national search to find an expert who could guide our district in how to create a culture of consent and prevent further occurrences of sexual harassment and sexual assault on our school campuses. After our extensive search, we chose Anea, who has been an excellent partner in this important work. She is an extraordinary subject matter expert whose professionalism, calm, empathy, and humanity were noted throughout our work with her. Anea’s expertise encompassed her deep listening skills as she met with the community beforehand in order to create a presentation that addressed our specific needs. Her presentations were powerful, increased awareness, educated parents, faculty, and students, and provided practical steps to empower students. She has been committed to the entire process of our healing, including follow-up after the presentation, in order to help us to absorb the information as deeply as possible – to get it into our bones. I have been extremely impressed with Anea and I offer my endorsement of her work as a father, a member of a school district, and as a man committed to the eradication of sexual misconduct in all forms.” – John Fitton, Parent

Coming Soon! Online ‘Webinar’ Classes!

Los Altos High School

If you are a student, faculty, or parent from Los Altos High School click here to download all of your resource pages from you customized presentation and workshop on Building Healthy Relationships & Creating a Culture of Consent.

Palo Alto High School or Henry M. Gunn High School

If you are a student, faculty, or parent from Palo Alto High School or Henry M. Gunn High School click here to download all of your resource pages from your customized presentation on Building Healthy Relationships & a Culture of Consent.

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